We arrived home to Houston on the one year anniversary of Evan’s rafting accident. We didn’t plan it that way, but we all agree that somehow it’s most fitting. Today is the one year anniversary of the day we received the devastating text message from Doug. He had flown to Guatemala where the search continued…

When I was about 12 years old, my siblings came up with the idea to do a circus show for our parents and neighbors. The plan was to set up rows of chairs outside and make tickets and popcorn and lemonade for our audience. Through clever disguises one brother appeared to have very short legs…

Faithful friends are a sturdy shelter; whoever finds one finds a treasure. Faithful friends are beyond price, no amount can balance their worth. Faithful friends are life-saving medicine. . . Sirach 6:14-16a This truth has been ringing in my heart in recent days and weeks. God has blessed me with faithful friends my whole life….

When our children were small I mistakenly thought it my job to lovingly control their behavior and brush aside any negative feelings, proving what a happy family we were. And while I truly desired what was best for them, my ideas of what was best were impoverished. Unwilling to endure the small-minded judgment of others…

Back in Phoenix now, I’m feeling “in-between” two distinct places. I know Phoenix well. Yesterday we drove past a place where Evan took me for lunch just once and it hit me that I’m leaving this place that holds innumerable memories. After Evan’s first deployment to Afghanistan I was working at St. Thomas the Apostle…

We bought our house in “as is” condition because it’s in the same cul de sac with Cana & Ennie and our grandkids. We were also okay with “as is” because we have been blessed with the will and ability to labor, more than with funds to pay for work already done. Besides we like…

I’m in Houston with Cana and Ennie as their family adjusts to the addition of their ninth child, Evan Marie Immaculée. It’s quiet now compared to the previous few days when we, along with the baby’s Great Aunt Laura, her Uncles Jonathan and Chris, and her Tia Xhiv, each still reeling from the loss of…

On the first Sunday of Advent we began negotiations with the buyer of our Phoenix house. We also made an offer to buy a home in Southeast Houston just two doors down from Cana and Ennie. Both sales are now complete and our new adventure has begun! We filled two vehicles and a trailer and…

Evan spoke openly about his “brain worms”, not literal worms, but his preferred term for the mental illnesses known as Bipolar II and PTSD. His openness and eventual acceptance of mental illness enabled him to help others and to receive the support he needed. He advocated for an end to the stigma and shame surrounding…

We began the day with 6:30am Mass at St. Bernadette where the intention was for Evan. And the day ended with a beautiful Instagram post by our daughter, Xhiv. She shares this painting and another featured in my previous blogpost as well as a photo from her apartment. You can see her post by following…