A Faithful Friend

Faithful friends are a sturdy shelter; whoever finds one finds a treasure. Faithful friends are beyond price, no amount can balance their worth. Faithful friends are life-saving medicine. . . Sirach 6:14-16a This truth has been ringing in my heart in recent days and weeks. God has blessed me with faithful friends my whole life….

Love’s Exacting Demands

When our children were small I mistakenly thought it my job to lovingly control their behavior and brush aside any negative feelings, proving what a happy family we were. And while I truly desired what was best for them, my ideas of what was best were impoverished. Unwilling to endure the small-minded judgment of others…

In-Between

Back in Phoenix now, I’m feeling “in-between” two distinct places. I know Phoenix well. Yesterday we drove past a place where Evan took me for lunch just once and it hit me that I’m leaving this place that holds innumerable memories. After Evan’s first deployment to Afghanistan I was working at St. Thomas the Apostle…

A Sanctified Refuge

We bought our house in “as is” condition because it’s in the same cul de sac with Cana & Ennie and our grandkids. We were also okay with “as is” because we have been blessed with the will and ability to labor, more than with funds to pay for work already done. Besides we like…

Messy & Beautiful

I’m in Houston with Cana and Ennie as their family adjusts to the addition of their ninth child, Evan Marie Immaculée. It’s quiet now compared to the previous few days when we, along with the baby’s Great Aunt Laura, her Uncles Jonathan and Chris, and her Tia Xhiv, each still reeling from the loss of…

Houston for the Holidays & Beyond

On the first Sunday of Advent we began negotiations with the buyer of our Phoenix house. We also made an offer to buy a home in Southeast Houston just two doors down from Cana and Ennie. Both sales are now complete and our new adventure has begun! We filled two vehicles and a trailer and…

Mental Illness & What Love Requires

Evan spoke openly about his “brain worms”, not literal worms, but his preferred term for the mental illnesses known as Bipolar II and PTSD. His openness and eventual acceptance of mental illness enabled him to help others and to receive the support he needed. He advocated for an end to the stigma and shame surrounding…

On the Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe

We began the day with 6:30am Mass at St. Bernadette where the intention was for Evan. And the day ended with a beautiful Instagram post by our daughter, Xhiv. She shares this painting and another featured in my previous blogpost as well as a photo from her apartment. You can see her post by following…

Sorrow Magnifies Beauty

Since last April I’ve known traditional Christmas carols could be a grief trigger. One from my playlist randomly played while I was driving. When that wave of grief hit I sat crying in a parking lot until I realized I could have simply forwarded to the next song, making it possible to stave off the…

Timeless Truth

While going through a box of old papers, I was surprised to come across the following words in my own handwriting: It is in journeying TOGETHER that we are able to glimpse the true meaning of Perfect Love. Because we fail each other so miserably we see even more our great need for the Creator…